So here's the deal, we lived with these people for...oh sets say about 6 months on a one year lease, we eventually managed to have them sign us off the lease and sign someone else on. I've learned so much about myself and others that I felt the need to share.
1. Living with someone who doesn't share your political, religious, etc. beliefs really limits how open you can be in your own home. No matter how accepting of other people you are, when you can't do or say anything about those things without offending someone, it can make you feel kind of trapped. Not only did our roommates have different morals, but their beliefs made it hard to feel normal in our own home.
2. Some people can't accept how abusive and unhealthy their relationships are, and will even project their unhappiness onto you. This is one thing I was NOT expecting. John and I have been together for almost four years, a disagreement or a misunderstanding is not the same as being unhappy, as many times as I tried to explain to them that we just like time to ourselves to relax and distress that ONE disagreement John and I had shortly after moving in defined our relationship to them. They spent the next several months telling us how "concerned" they were and was less than kind about us getting engaged. They even went so far as to ruin John's proposal! It's obvious between the nitpicking and all occasional hitting and controlling attitude They took toward each other it was anything but a happy, loving relationship.
3. Never compromise when it comes to your home and well-being. Compromising about the dishes is one thing, but we should never have moved in with a smoker (I'm allergic), even though they promised to be careful about it, it wasn't worth it. They weren't and I suspect that most people will stop trying at some point. Our compromise ended up putting us in a dangerous situation, we had to move out with no warning and we were very close to involving the police. There were often moments where we felt unsafe and it eventually escalated. As much as you may want to help someone else in a crappy housing situation, and as bad as it sounds, look out for yourself first!
That's all for this post,
xoxo
Courtney
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